You see, I’ve found that maintaining one’s sanity in the search for love requires a certain amount of delusion.
That’s why respectfully-and guiltily-I’ve resorted to clicking that “Not interested” prompt when these videos pop up on my feed. Who doesn’t love feeling seen and heard? But on the other hand, I already have firsthand knowledge of how shitty it can sometimes be trying to meet new people when you’re a Black woman.
As a Black woman, I’m familiar with these issues and the frustrations that come with them and appreciate having a platform like TikTok to voice those very valid feelings and critiques. The videos range from calling out the way colorism dictates many people’s dating preferences to doing the complicated job of differentiating between guys with Black girl fetishes and those who are genuinely feeling you for you. At Cosmo, we’re celebrating Black love in all its forms through a series of curated opinion pieces.